We all deal with those passive aggressive folks who are a part of our daily life. I think it’s one of the things that makes human beings so strong; I mean dealing with those kinds of idiots all day makes for a thick skin. Being passive aggressive is probably one of the most irritating qualities a person can have. Seriously, if your going to be aggressive just be straight forward so the rest of us don’t have to deal with the underlying bullshit that is an automatic response to passive aggressive remarks.
I would say I’m lucky in a sense because I don’t have to deal with too many passive aggressive people. My dad is definitely like this but since I made the choice not to have him in my life that’s not an issue. On the other hand, my best friend is totally like this. I don’t know what she has to be mad at me about since I’ve never done anything to her but she always manages to throw out snide remarks about my past (family life, past boys, mistakes I’ve made etc.). It’s really fucking annoying because I don’t see why someone who wears the title of Best Friend would do that and it’s clear she doesn’t recognize it because I’ve confronted her about it and she “has no idea what I’m talking about.”
The issue is shedding light on the important issue of friendships and what makes them last. Ours has had a very rocky past but we got through it and are now very close I think, but now that she’s all wrapped up with her boyfriend, I just feel I’m in the need of another friend. One who can actually do things with me that doesn’t constantly need her boyfriend there by her side. Don’t get me wrong, I totally support couples and sticking with your partner, but using them as a crutch is different.
It is said that a girl’s first reaction to issues with men is to change her hair. Now, I won’t argue with that because there have been plenty of times when I’ve gone through a bad breakup and desperately wanted change so I died my hair. I can’t tell you how many hair colors I’ve had. Blonde, light brown, dark brown, purple, blue pink…the list is ridiculous. I don’t see it as a bad thing, hair is one of those things that no matter how bad you screw it up, it always grows back.
Yes, dying your hair or doing something drastic to it can be scary. There was one point when I was in between brown and blonde, I was basically at a reddish color but I spazzed and started crying because I thought I looked crazy. My dad also called me a leprechaun because I had red hair and a green sweatshirt on. So yes, it is stressful to change something that is such a prominent feature.
I’m writing about this because my best friend is about to chop off her hip length hair to her shoulders and dye it either red or get blonde highlights. It should be interesting because it came out of the blue, but hell, I’m always a supporter of change and trying something new so props to her. I’m also going to be adding golden lowlights into my blonde hair to make it a little darker and similar to Candice Swanepoel’s hair. I love her so I’m attempting to copy her hair.
Lucky for me I live with my mom who is a hair stylist so I’ve never had to leave my house to get something done. Although it kind of sucks for her because if I don’t like it, I blame her and she feels bad. I don’t try to make her feel bad but she does anyways according to her. She’s nervous to do my best friends hair because she doesn’t want her to hate her and she’s nervous to do mine cause she’s worried I’ll think my hair is too “gingery” once the gold is in. I understand her concerns. It’s not that she can’t do the color, it’s more of a mental thing for me and the client. It’s what we think looks right or wrong and that can be very tough on the stylist. So to all you stylists out there, as a client, we aren’t trying to make you feel bad if we don’t like it, it’s just our mental picture of ourselves. Keep doing what your doing cause I mean lets be honest, the world would be pretty damn boring if everyone had their natural hair color.